The Happy Hustle: 10 Alignments for a Blissful Life with Cary Jack

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Welcome to this week's Saddle Up Live.

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I am excited to have you here.

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This is a special episode.

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It, I was going through like past

episodes that I had done and I, I forgot

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all about this one and sometimes if

I've done an episode in the past on

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doing divorce different, that would

really align nicely with Settle Up Live.

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I like to.

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Pull it up and, and, uh.

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Take it out of the archives and I'm

putting it forward in Saddle Up Live

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because it's so telling how it is

really all about what I talk about now.

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I was so fortunate way back in

the beginning of doing divorce

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different, I was able to get this

young man, his name is Carrie Jack.

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He's known as the Happy Hustler.

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He was on Entrepreneurs On.

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Fire podcast and just like a really

well-known fella and he chose to come

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on my podcast, which was so lovely.

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Um, it touches a little bit

on some divorce issues, but

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it's so interesting to me.

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To see where I've grown and what

I've learned, especially since going

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through something else really hard,

like a little diagnosis that I had.

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So I think this information is really

something that's great for people

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going through any hard time divorce or

anything, and just, he talks about living

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a happy life and it was very eye-opening.

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For me, and please excuse the audio.

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Obviously I was not, um,

at my top at that time.

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His sounds great because he's a pro.

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Um, but my voice could get a little

echoey and weird sometimes, but I

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think the content is so good that

I'm gonna put it out there anyway,

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and I hope you enjoy it as much as

I enjoyed taping it and listening to

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it again, take good care, listen up.

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Speaker: Welcome listeners.

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I am so thankful for today's guest.

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You know, I help people through divorce

and I reached out to Carry Jack.

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I always think of you

as the happy hustler.

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I heard this amazing young man on

entrepreneurs on Fire, and Carrie

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Jack, you were talking about.

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The 10 alignments and how

to find blissful balance.

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And I am always wanting to add value to my

clients going through divorce and to help

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them work together to help their kiddos.

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Um, you know, and I know that's something

that was kind of a reason that you.

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Decided to do this podcast because

you are kind of a big deal.

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And so I appreciate, I

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Speaker 2: don't know about that,

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Speaker: you are, I appreciate that

you are willing to add value to my

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listeners' lives by sharing, the 10

alignments you have a book, you're

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very successful Your podcast is.

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Amazing.

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we are just so thankful to have you here

today if we can jump right in to some

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of the 10 alignments to help us find

balance even when some of my clients

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aren't happy going through the divorce,

maybe we can get them in a better

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balanced area and the future of happiness.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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First off, thank you for having me, Lisa.

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I appreciate you and the invite.

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And you know, I felt called to do your

show and I mentioned pre-chat just

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because I did go through a gut wrenching

divorce myself as a, you know, an

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early, teen slash, you know, I think I

was 10 actually, so probably pre-teen.

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I just want to add value to those

going through something similar

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because it really is a tough time.

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And so if, my message can resonate

and even just help positively

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impact just one listener, I would

consider it time well spent.

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So yeah, the 10 alignments are basically,

my framework for happy hustling, a

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blissfully balanced life that you love.

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And I was out of balance

as an entrepreneur.

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I was hustling but not happy.

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I had a real burnout moment in New York

City when I was really grinding my face

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off, working a hundred plus hour weeks,

getting less than five hours of sleep.

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I was, soliciting a seven figure

VC funding deal for my tech

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startup with my brother and

business partner and best friend.

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we ended up in partnerships with

Microsoft and IBM and had this really

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great opportunity to scale our business.

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And I just got to the, the

table when it came time to sign

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in the deals and, you know.

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I couldn't take the money.

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we said no to the funding.

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We folded the company.

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I moved to Bangkok, Thailand to

figure out a better way to work

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and live, you know, 'cause I was

just so unfulfilled, so burned out.

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And that's where the

Happy Hustle was born.

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And that's where the 10 alignments

started to take shape Really now it's

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morphed into this framework that initially

just scratched my own itch, you know?

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Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.

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Speaker 2: Just of being burnout myself.

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And now the 10 alignments and, and this

soul mapping acronym has helped thousands

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of other happy hustlers just create

that blissful balance in their life.

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Speaker: I love that, and

I am, I can't help it.

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This is so important to me.

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And I felt like before I heard you,

I was balanced and I found myself

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listening and taking notes and going,

oh, I'm kind of missing it on this note.

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So I love, I actually

have 'em written down.

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I love the soul map.

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Oh, awesome.

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Yeah, I can't wait.

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Speaker 2: That's amazing.

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Speaker: And I think the first one is

the S, which is the selfless service.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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What I would urge all of your

listeners, and you know, I think.

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Podcasts are great, but when you are

an active participant is when you

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really get the most out of podcasts.

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And I would urge all your listeners

to go through and quantify where you

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rank in each of these 10 alignments.

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five would be your crushing it.

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it's an A in terms of the grading scale,

you know, and then one would be an f.

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Meaning you're failing.

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you need to prioritize change accordingly.

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So rank yourself, you know, one

through five in each of these

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10 areas as we go through.

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And the S stands for selfless

service, as Lisa mentioned.

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the secret to living is giving.

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So, identify right now where

you rank in this alignment.

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Are you living for yourself and

just caught up in your own divorce

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and, and caught up in your own?

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Despair or are you starting to give

back to others and, and, you know,

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thinking outside of yourself, you know,

rank yourself one to five in that area.

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The O stands for Optimized Health.

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You know, you have to have your

health both physically and mentally

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and emotionally optimized in order to

happy hustle in any area and to get

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through these tough times in your life.

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You know, this is one of those things

where if you don't have your health dialed

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in, everything else takes a back seat.

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Especially now with Covid if you've

gotten sick from Covid, you know

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how it just completely wrecks

your life and you're just, nothing

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else matters, but getting healthy.

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So.

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Play good offense and start to

take care of yourself and rank

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yourself right now, one to five

in this alignment, optimize help.

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The U stands for unplugged digitally.

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this is one of those, difficult,

alignments to really score

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high end oftentimes because

we are so hyperconnected.

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We are, watching movies and streaming

shows and on YouTube and then on social

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media, and we're constantly connected.

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But I really, truly believe

being disconnected is how you

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can actually reconnect to your

true self and your true soul.

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And, I'll just share something personal.

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Right now I'm in a dopamine detox

where I'm doing no social media, no

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movies, no YouTube, No streaming shows

or any of that for the whole week.

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And I have had some of my most productive

days without those distractions.

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So rank yourself in that

alignment unplugged digitally.

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And then you have the

L loving relationships.

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You know, we're talking about divorce

and we're talking about, you know,

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getting back to loving relationships,

and this is an important one, obviously.

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Depending on where you're at right

now, it might be a lower score.

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But getting back to that five

in loving relationships is

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really what life's all about.

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Having that love, you know?

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So that's the first, that's

the soul part at Lisa.

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I'm curious if you're feeling

brave, you wanna share your,

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your rankings and, and score?

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Speaker: you know, and it's

interesting because when you

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brought up selfless service.

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What kind of hit me is

I'm a real good mama bear.

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I take care of my family, I take

care of the things they're involved

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in, but I don't think I look at the

bigger picture, and that's what I

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noticed that's missing from my life.

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So that is one thing I'm searching for,

starting to find a few of those things

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because it's kind of selfish when I just.

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You know, help those in my own little

hut and I wanna start reaching out.

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So that was only a two on my score.

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it was funny, optimizing health,

I thought, oh, I'm a four.

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I'm pretty much a four.

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I work pretty hard on that.

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But then when you said

physical and emotional.

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I went, oh, okay.

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Maybe for physical, but

maybe not emotional.

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So that's something I need to think of.

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Mm-hmm.

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I loved what you said about unplugging

digitally, because I do fasting,

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like alternative day fasting, but

I'm pretty good about setting it

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aside and being with my hubby mm-hmm.

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Or my kids, or my grandson.

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But I haven't done it for

that long of a period.

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I haven't done it for a day.

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'cause it's just such a part

of my work and my life, so.

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Love that idea and would love to

experience what that feels like.

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And then Carrie, Jack, this is what's

so different about me, is I have

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been married for almost 30 years.

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Wow.

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So, yeah, and it's not all great.

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It's impressive.

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Speaker 2: I, none of them are, I mean,

every relationship has its adversity.

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My fiance and I have our adversity

that we're working through

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Speaker: but I'm gonna give myself

a five on that because, we really do

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work together and it is hard work.

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It's not easy, you know,

anything that's like this.

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This is hard work to get yourself in a

better position, especially when you're

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going through difficult times, so,

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Speaker 3: mm-hmm.

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Speaker: It was a little eye-opening to do

it again with you right here on the air.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Well, and that's the thing guys, everyone

listening, just give yourself some grace.

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You know, it's okay.

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This is a baseline.

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This is where you're at currently,

and I rank myself in these

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10 alignments every Sunday.

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So it's not a one and done type thing.

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It's every single week.

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I look at the week prior and I

look at, okay, where do I need to

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prioritize change in the future?

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This upcoming week.

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Right, right.

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And that's the, the difference, like

people talk about work-life balance as

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this finite destination, and I truly

believe it's a never ending journey.

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You know, it requires constant evaluation,

adjustments, tweaks, pivots, That's

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why this framework, I think, has taken

off and people are really attaching

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to it because it's a different way to

actually manifest this balance, but

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not as this finite destination, but

as this constant work in progress.

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Yeah.

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So that's the sole part.

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Now we're gonna dive into the mapping

part and again, you know, rank where

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you're at in these, different alignments.

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The M stands for mindful spirituality.

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So this is, really important that you're

connecting to a higher power, that

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you believe in something bigger than

yourself, that you're practicing, breath

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work and meditation and gratitude daily.

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I don't necessarily, you know, care

what God you believe in, but I just

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care that you believe in something,

you know, and I just think it's

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really important to have faith.

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So that is a, a big, you know.

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Alignment that I, I see a lot of

people, lacking in o oftentimes,

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you know, some people are either all

in and, or some people are all out.

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There's like, sometimes

there's very little in between.

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So rank where you're at

one to five in that one.

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the A stands for abundance financially.

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Right.

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It's gonna be difficult to happy hustle.

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Your dream reality if you're

living paycheck to paycheck.

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but we do need to focus on how you can

create a system that works for you,

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that you can save, invest, and spend

wisely that is automated And you know,

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this is one of those alignments that.

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It seems like it's more important than

the others, but it's really, truly not.

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It's just another piece to your puzzle,

but it is an important piece nonetheless.

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So rank where you're at in

terms of abundance financially.

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The first P is.

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personal development.

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I noticed that in the book.

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Personal development is

the first p in the book.

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I'll stick with the book, chapter

order, but personal development is,

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you know, how often are you actually

reading and listening and, you

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know, watching visually stimulating

and auditorily stimulating, like

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educational and inspirational content.

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You know, because you're

either growing and evolving.

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Or you're shrinking and dissolving.

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And those are literally the two options

when it comes to personal development.

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So rank where you're at in that one.

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The second P is passionate hobbies.

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So this is, you know, are you actually

doing fun things for yourself and

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getting out and filling your own cup.

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And especially in tough times,

this is a very imperative alignment

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that, again, I see most high

performers lacking in because they.

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take care of other people and they're

worried about their business and

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they're worried about, their kids.

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And this is one of those where

you have to fill your own cup.

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You have to, you know, go

do things that you enjoy.

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I love snowboarding in the wintertime

out here and horseback riding in Montana

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and fly fishing, and I practicing my

martial arts and playing soccer and, you

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know, so I do these things regularly.

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Okay.

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And it's important that you do something

that you enjoy regularly as well.

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So rank where you're at in that one

impactful work is okay, are you actually

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getting up every day doing something

that you enjoy, that you feel fulfilled

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doing, that you are infusing your

passion, you know, which is that I.

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Inward facing calling with your purpose,

which is that outward serving mission.

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Right?

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And then ultimately, are you making

a positive impact in the process?

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Right.

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And I find a lot of people are

sacrificing their soul for their, for

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their career, for their paycheck, In

order to truly happy hustle, this is one

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of those alignments where you have to

really kind of rethink is what you're

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doing for work right now, actually,

filling the void and creating impact

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and infusing your passion and purpose.

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So, rank where you're at in this one.

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And that nature connection is, are

you getting outside and, tapping into

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this beautiful planet and getting

away from the, toxic blue light

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in our recycled air in our homes.

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And, 96% of time is spent indoors

for the majority of individuals.

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And so.

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It's one of those things where

you have to just get outside

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and enjoy our beautiful planet.

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We're we're primal being, and oh, by

the way, you gotta protect it in the

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process, you know, because a lot of us

are decimating our natural resources

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with our choices that we're making

by voting with our dollar every day.

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So become a conscious consumer.

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This falls into this alignment, you know?

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And I have actually another.

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Eco company called Eco Breakthroughs,

that's fighting the plastic

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pollution epidemic with my brother

and business partner again.

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And you know, I'm very passionate

about being an eco warrior and, and

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the simple change that you can make

just listening right now is support

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more B corporations, you know, benefit

corporations that are very transparent.

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You can look online.

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At the list of B corporations such

as Patagonia, Ben and Jerry's, right?

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The north face, you know, like there's

companies out there that are doing

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the right thing and they know where

their supply chains are, you know,

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like going awry and, and where they

actually fix 'em to create regenerative

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practices and, and have sustainability

within their business model.

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And so it's one of those, you know.

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Alignments that is bigger than

just you getting outside, but it's

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actually thinking with an eco mindset.

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So that's nature connection.

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You should have 10 scores right now, Lisa.

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Let's hear it.

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Speaker: mindful spirituality.

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gratitude.

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I'm gonna give myself like a

four, even a four and a half.

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that's big to me.

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And then abundance financially.

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I do think, for a lot of my clients and

listeners, you're never really better

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off after a divorce than you were before.

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And so sadly, some of the hard work

that we do is getting that all straight.

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if you're thinking about going through

this or going through a divorce,

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you will get some peace if you can.

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Get your budget down.

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that isn't another worry that you have,

gives you a little freedom to live your

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life when you have things in place.

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Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.

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Speaker: I love that

one for our listeners.

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And it's a hard one.

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personal development, oh my gosh.

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I love everything.

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And my drive, my husband crazy.

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When are you gonna stop growing?

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Because I just always have a new

idea, and that's why I love having

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you on and sharing this with my people

because it's so important to me to keep

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growing and learning, I'm gonna give

myself a pretty high score on that.

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I don't think I actually

put a score on that one.

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it would be a three.

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But this is interesting and I've forgot

to tell you, Carrie, Jack, another reason

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that I love you is I'm a horse girl.

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Speaker 2: Oh, awesome.

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Speaker: I got one back here

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Speaker 2: Amazing.

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There you go.

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Speaker: barn, because

I do this from my barn.

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Oh, awesome.

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And then I have a couple other

horses, but do you wanna know

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what I knew I was really bad at?

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At the hobby thing and like I

call going on to run a hobby.

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'cause I think it kind of is.

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Or like self-help stuff.

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Hobbies.

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But do you know that since.

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Covid hit.

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I have not ridden a horse, and I

am like, I can't even believe it.

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And it just, that just hit me today.

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And so that's something I really

need to work on and I've missed that.

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I call all my self growth things,

my hobbies, but in reality, where's

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the, the golf with my husband?

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I hadn't done that either.

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He's been going, but I haven't.

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So, It's just good for me to learn that.

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And then that nature connection,

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Speaker: of course you're gonna

wanna be good to the planet

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when you're out in nature.

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And Carrie, Jack, that is not

easy to do living where we live.

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'cause we're going below

zero here this week.

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but you just load on all your gear.

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And you look like a mummy and

you walk out and you at least

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get out there a little bit.

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Speaker 3: Yep.

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Speaker: it's so

different in this climate.

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I am such a summertime girl.

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Outside every second.

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The sun is shining.

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I just wanna be out there.

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And then it totally reverses.

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And I don't know, Montana's

probably a little different.

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a little sunnier, I think.

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A little warmer.

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Speaker 2: it's pretty

chilly here too sometimes.

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But yeah, right now we're about

30, you know, so it's not too bad.

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Speaker: No, that sounds good to me.

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And I think we're about that here now

too, but I just, I love all of this If

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people who are going through divorce can

start looking at this and growing, I want

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them to be better after this experience.

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I don't want 'em to go through this again.

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Mm-hmm.

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And I don't want their kids to go through

something bad By taking care of yourself.

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You're taking care of your kids.

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You're teaching them how

to care for themselves.

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You're being a better parent.

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And Carrie Jack, this is a really

awesome thing, is that you can mitigate

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the issues that a child has with

a divorce when you work together.

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Both parents work together.

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Yeah.

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So that is always my, I have

a parenting plan course.

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that is my dream that

people can do it together.

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And there are people doing

this a different way.

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It doesn't have to be

cutthroat and fighting.

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It can be, an amazing growth experience.

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And so having you here today.

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Is helping me spread that to my listeners

and my clients, so I so appreciate it.

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Yeah.

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And we're gonna have all your good

information in the show notes,

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but tell us how can, what's the

best way to connect with you?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I just want

to echo, you know, taking ego out of

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it and working together as parents.

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I think that's the catalyst to

having a healthy separation.

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And, yeah, if you can.

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Start to look at your life with

this holistic approach to balance

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and these 10 alignments hopefully

can help serve in some capacity.

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I do wanna mention one thing

when it comes to happy hustling.

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And the biggest key principle is you must

focus on each of these 10 alignments.

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One at a time.

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Okay.

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So a lot of people, you know, when

they're at work, they're thinking

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about their family or their divorce,

you know, and when they're with their

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family, they're thinking about work.

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This principle of happy

hustling is really focusing on.

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Each of these different

alignments and being all in.

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When I'm talking to Lisa, I'm all here.

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when I'm going to work

out, I'm getting after it.

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when I'm fly fishing, I'm

not checking emails, right.

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Each thing on your calendar needs

to have equal importance, and you

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need to focus on it one at a time.

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So that's just a important piece

to this happy hustle and puzzle.

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in terms of connecting with me, the best

possible thing for your listeners would

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probably be, to just either listen to

the podcast, the Happy Hustle Podcast.

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And, pick up a copy of the book if you

want to go deeper in these 10 alignments.

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The Happy Hustle book.com.

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We're actually doing a promo.

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I really want this content out

there and to spread the message.

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So we're doing, basically the

first thousand copies for free.

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If you just go to the

Happy Hustle book.com.

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I'll just help out with

shipping and handling.

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It'll go right to your doorstep.

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And then there's an option if

you want to get the audio book

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and you wanna get an extra copy.

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And there's some options.

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There's, for my course, if you

wanted to go deeper, even still.

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But that's probably the best

place, the happiest of book.com.

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thank you again, Lisa.

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I really appreciate

you and your listeners.

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divorce is a son of a gun, but

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You'll get through it.

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whatever adversity arises in your

life ultimately makes you stronger.

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It has made me stronger as a kid

going through divorce and I vowed

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to never get divorced myself.

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I've been very diligent with

my partner choice I'm praying

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that I don't ever get divorced.

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I know people change and life

happens, but ultimately just keep

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your head up, keep going, and, it'll

make you stronger in the long run.

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Speaker: Yep.

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And I think you've got

the mindset for it, sir.

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I think you are gonna have a lot of

happiness in that future relationship.

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I really can feel it.

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You know the work and

you're helping other people.

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So thank you Care Jack, honestly, so much.

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Thank you.

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I so appreciate you being here

and taking the time for me and my

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listeners, and adding value and

changing my life a little bit too.

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Speaker 2: I received that, Lisa.

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Speaker: Peace and love,

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Speaker 2: everyone.

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Speaker: Take care.