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Come to the giddy up segment.

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I'm thankful that you're here.

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And today I was a little bit moved by

something and you know, I'm sitting

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here in my stocking cap in my barn

with my little heater blown at my feet.

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It is below zero.

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So it's one of those cold days.

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The sun is shining and it's

beautiful, but it was one of those

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days where I wasn't really able to

get outside for, uh, Morning walk.

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And so I decided to drive to the

community center and do a workout

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class with some inspiring ladies.

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So that was really fun, but on my way

there, I was listening to a really popular

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podcast that I love, but it kind of got

me thinking and I was thinking about my.

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own journey.

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And you know that I am just saddling

up to the best time in my life, right?

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It's like 40 and beyond ladies.

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And as I was listening to

this, Fun podcast host.

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She was talking about people pleasing and

she's got like a remedy and I actually

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have her book, which I'm gonna love

reading about how to get over people

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pleasing and just move forward and get

your mindset right and you know how

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much I love self-coaching and how things

have evolved since I, you know, had my.

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You know, since they spotted that

stage one, um, breast cancer,

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uh, all good, all behind me, but

it changed my perspective a bit.

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And so before that, I too always kind

of dug into that mindset and I do

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believe it's so important and I believe

that it was a necessary first step.

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I had a great coach that helped me

learn about mindset and how to change

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it and how to self coach yourself.

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But what I'm learning as I go through

this journey, and I'm actually writing

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about it, and it's going to be, it's

going to take me a time, um, to get this

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all written because I'm learning as I

go, but this is what I've learned so far.

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The first step is learning about

your mindset and you can go back and

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listen to my episodes, but we talk

about becoming aware of how we feel.

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Go get your feelings wheel from LisaKosky.

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com if you need it.

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Being aware of it as a first step.

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Being aware of your feelings is huge.

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Then you go to, you know, what is

the thought behind how I'm feeling?

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And that thought is like a belief.

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So it's either like a story or

something you're telling yourself.

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This is how I was coached.

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And then I was coached

to change that belief.

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And then my actions would follow,

which can work in some instances.

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What I've found is it

can't work in all of them.

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And that's because we have

to do a little bit more work.

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I'm sorry.

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It's not that simple.

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I mean, it's simple in a way

that it can, this can improve

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your life just to do this.

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But as I dig deeper, I'm feeling even

better and learning so much more,

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and I just want to share it with you.

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So what I kind of discovered is as I'm

moving along my path here, I took a

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course and this is in the show notes and

I highly recommend it by JJ Flazains.

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She is so amazing.

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Um, I took her course on core wounds and

she also has a mindset piece, which is

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very similar to how I was self coach,

but she has a little bit different, um,

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look inside into it where she looks at,

um, The feeling that we have is probably

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the negative feeling that we have, or the

unwanted feeling is probably from a need

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that's not being met and she'll walk you

through that coaching, which is helpful

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too, but then what changed everything

for me, which was like the second step.

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was her core wounds course.

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And that's where you look at, you know,

how everybody's talking about like your

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childhood and I've talked about it, um, or

even like things from when you're a baby.

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And it's not even anything

intentional by your parents.

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You can have the most loving, awesome

parents, but there's still things

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that you can misperceive or, or, You

make up a story in your head because

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you're tiny and you're smart for then,

and you're learning how to survive.

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But when I did that course,

that stepped things up a bit.

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So I was able to really look at, Oh.

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This is where that thought's coming

from because you have to understand it.

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And I think you have to know

where it's coming from and able

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to enable you to address it.

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And I know you heard me talk on

the giddy up section before where

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I talked about Bruce Lipton.

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Lipton, I'll put his book in here too.

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And he talks about how to rewire your

brain or to really change your beliefs

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that are there that aren't serving you.

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Um, you need to be hypnotized and, you

know, we can't all hire a hypnotist.

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So one thing that he said

was to make a recording.

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So once you delve in, figure out what

your core wounds are and what the things

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are that are really setting you up to.

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You know, suffer a little

bit when you don't need to.

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We want to feel joy in life.

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When you learn what those really

are, then you can do a recording

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and it kind of affirms you.

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And if you put your little headphones

in and listen to it as you're falling

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asleep, like one of them is I am.

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Completely loved by God.

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You know how important God is

to me, my father in heaven.

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So I, you know, I say that and I believe

it and it makes me show up different.

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There are other ones where, um, you

know, I think one is I can't rescue

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anyone and I'm not responsible

for how other people feel.

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I mean, there's all kinds

of them that I've dug into.

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So step number two was

JJ Flazain's course.

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The next thing that I

stumbled upon was NLP.

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I'm not going to go into depth

on it now, but it's, I think it's

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neural linguistic programming.

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If you listen to Joe Rogan, when he talks

to Mel Gibson, he's got a little blurb

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where he talks about, Hey, I stopped

smoking from a book that used NLP.

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And this is how he described it.

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He said the book.

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Just like said the things that were

bad about, I think it said what was

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bad about smoking and then it said, and

chapter seven, what's good about smoking.

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And he said, you turn the page and it was

blank and somehow that rewired his brain.

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And so I became very interested in this

and thankfully, you know, Marie Simpson

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is my functional assessment expert.

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I will also have her affiliate

link in the show notes because

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I've been working with her as well.

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But I reached out to her and I said,

do you know anything about NLP?

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And she said, yes, I'm a practitioner.

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So I started working with Marie.

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And what I've found is that the core

wounds really got me there a lot, but

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working with Marie has even stepped it

up more and I'm ready to just really

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heal, but it has really, because of

the way she asked me questions, it

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has really prompted me to know what I.

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what the belief is and how understanding

how that belief really isn't true and

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really getting in and reprogramming it.

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Now I know this is not giving you

a heck of a lot of information, um,

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about exactly how NLP works, but

that's because I don't really know.

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I just know it's working for me, But

I am planning on going further and

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maybe even getting certified because I

can see where it would be another tool

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in my toolbox to help me help people.

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Because, you know, this podcast

is about sharing what we've

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learned and helping others.

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And a lot of times we, you know, have

to go through a hard time on our own.

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We can't always just go

by someone else's story.

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But those stories have helped me even if

it's sometimes just on a surface level.

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So that's what I was feeling like,

passionate about letting you know in

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this little giddy up segment today.

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So there'll be more to come on NLP

and I will, I promise you, I am going

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to keep walking you through this

journey with me as I learn and grow.

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I want you to too.

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I want to suffer less.

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I want to saddle up to the

best times of our lives.

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Take good care.