From Diagnosis to Destiny: A Journey of Faith and Resilience

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Welcome to Saddle Up Live.

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I'm thankful that you're joining me today.

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Really thankful.

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And I am actually in my daughter's

house that she's moving out

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of, um, because she's coming.

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back home, uh, getting, she'll

be done with her residency.

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So she's getting a job near us.

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So I am helping with

Oliver, which is really fun.

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I just brought him to daycare and

really enjoying my time with him.

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So I feel so blessed.

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And what I want to share with you today is

kind of to introduce this little session.

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Today is actually the day that one year

ago I learned that I had breast cancer.

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Now, I ended up learning that I

had, they caught stage one and

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that, you know, they call me cured

now, um, so that's a blessing.

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But a year ago, I wasn't sure about

that, and it's been a journey, you know,

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I did have to go through hard things.

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I went through surgery and chemo and

radiation and all that stuff can scare the

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hell out of a girl, I'm gonna swear, yep.

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and um, but when I look at today

and I see how I've grown and um, my

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journey has strengthened, I wanna help.

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You listeners by sharing my

story and what I keep learning.

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So a year ago, I was terrified.

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I, I had done a lot of work in

my life to discover things and to

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try to get over an anxiety, but my

anxiety for healthcare was at a high.

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And as you know, I've worked through it.

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I've had the blessing

of surrendering to God.

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Which is the biggest thing and moving

forward and being less afraid like I

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truly am less afraid and you can get

there, so That's kind of exciting.

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You know, today is a new day.

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Today, I know that this past year was

hard, but that I learned how to rest.

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I'm writing a book, like, dedicated

to it, and gonna be talking about

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some fun things coming up about that.

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So, we've come full circle, and I wanted

to use this episode to talk a little

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bit, remember how I talked about gift?

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It's a couple weeks ago and finding

your gifts and using them because when

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you have that, when you are working

in your calling, which I do believe,

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um, I've spent a lot of time and it

might keep ebbing and flowing that

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as I change from doing more legal

work into doing mediations and now

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my work is changing even more into

this podcast and into coaching and to

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helping people stay married as well as

amicably divorce, um, Using those gifts.

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It's so important to go back

and listen if you're trying to

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figure out what your gifts are.

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Today, what I want to share, because I

feel excitement, is there are things that

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I've learned, um, well, through the Bible

and through Tony Robbins, of course.

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You know how much I love Tony.

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And as I was, um, coming to my

daughter's home, it's quite a drive

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and I listened to one of his books.

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It was a really old one.

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But it's always good for me to You know,

take a step back and listen to things

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that I've learned from him before.

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And I thought it was really interesting

because, um, what I listened to

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from Tony was about personal power.

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And we know, um, from past podcasts

that I love Tony's message of waking

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up with scripture every, every day

to have God with you on your journey.

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And that's been so important to me,

uh, because it's part of my calling.

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really keeps me grounded.

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And so that's why I love Tony's message.

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But this message is talking about

personal power and about taking action.

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And it was really interesting

because in correlation with

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that, the Bible study that I was

doing was about Exodus and Moses.

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And I thought, Oh, isn't it interesting

that when Moses, Moses parted the Red

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Sea, God didn't just do it for him.

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He said, Moses, raise your

arm, or whatever it was, and,

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and that's how the sea parted.

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So he used Moses actions.

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And it was, and then, okay, so then

another piece of my Bible study was

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about how the Israelites kept wanting to

leave, and Pharaoh kept saying they could

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go, and then he would change his mind.

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It's about being persistent and

I thought, Oh, this is so cool.

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Crazy that I get to all these

things are coming together.

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So the Tony Robbins personal power

and then the lessons through the Bible

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that I never saw before about You know

taking action And god will use you in

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those actions Isn't that beautiful?

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So I got really excited about that.

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I heard a story.

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This is funny about colonel Sanders

which kind of ties in with this.

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Okay, so we all know kentucky fried

chicken I don't even know if they're

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around anymore, but they were a big

deal and they were successful This is

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what I want you to know Do you know that

Colonel Sanders started his pursuit of

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the Chicken Empire at the age of 65?

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That's when he started.

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I'm not even 65.

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And so if you're out there thinking that

you can't do something, That isn't true.

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And we all know that, that, you know,

if you believe you can't, you can't.

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And if you believe you can, you can't.

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Well, Colonel Sanders

believed that he could.

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And what was so interesting about him,

well, one, I love that he started at 65.

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So I feel like I've got

the world all ahead of me.

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And you know what we do, no matter what

age, um, and he got, uh, 1, 009 no's.

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before he got a yes.

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So if you think about that like I think

I've spent a lot of my life where I've

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been like oh well God shut the door so

I'm just gonna turn around and leave

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well you know what that may not be true.

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Pharaoh kept saying no you have to believe

it and keep moving Forward to get it and

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you know, that's kind of my story with

my book and I'm actually taking action

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I can't tell you about it today, but I

will be able to tell you more about it in

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upcoming podcast but I am taking action

and I'm doing it and That's scary to me.

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Just like things that you're doing

are scary to you, but Just as a baby

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like think about a little baby and

they start walking When do they quit?

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When do they quit trying to walk?

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They don't.

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They don't quit until they walk.

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Look at that example, and I am

stealing that from Tony Robbins,

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but that example carries me.

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You don't quit until you

get to where you want to go.

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And I think what's important about

that is you need faith plus works.

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So you need that energy and excitement

and you can, you can make that up.

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Like I'm not kidding, I think I've said

in the past, I can be super down and

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downtrodden and I get up and I jump

and I dance around and it does help.

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It's weird, I know, but it helps

and that's why moving your body,

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going out for a walk is always

so, um, good for your whole self,

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your whole body, your whole brain.

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So you need that energy, excitement.

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And you also need to be able to

define exactly what you want.

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And that's what I've noticed with

the NLP work that I've been doing.

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Marie keeps saying,

well, what do you want?

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And it's hard.

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And, and go back to that gifts too, to

figure out what your gifts are, because

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it's a little bit tied to what you want.

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So figure out what you want

and make sure that's a skill.

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And, um, it's hard to define because

I, you know, you, I want success.

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And I want to take care

of my grandchildren.

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So, you want both, right?

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But you have to know what you want,

and to keep going until you get it.

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It doesn't mean that you have to

hurt anyone, or that you can't

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be meeting the needs of your

family, because you want that too.

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So, those are skills that Tony talks

about needing, is the discipline and the

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faith, so it's the faith plus the work.

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Knowing that you can do it just like a

baby they don't know that they know that

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they're gonna walk eventually it's just in

them know that and then know what you want

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so I'm just I'm looking at my notes he had

five agree I think he had seven agreements

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and I changed to five because I like

five of them and what I liked about this

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is I always act from personal power and

take action I always succeed in producing

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a result So, think about it this way.

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There are no failures.

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There are just results.

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So when Colonel Sanders was going

out and asking people, Hey, do you

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want to try this chicken recipe?

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And they said, No, that was a result.

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Don't beat yourself up.

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We're all done with that, right?

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Guys, we don't need to do that anymore.

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We are learning and growing and you

are acting toward getting a result.

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So it's not about What that result is

it's about learning from it and moving

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and going again for another result.

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So no failure just results I wish I

would have taught my kids that more You

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know, like why are mistakes so negative?

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They're not we're learning always.

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Okay.

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Here's the second thing that I love I

am totally responsible for my world.

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Now, you know, I carry God with me,

but I am responsible for my world.

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I am responsible for how I am treated.

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I am responsible for how I feel.

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So when you look at it that way you

take control and you set boundaries

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and you you change your life.

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Now this piece number two is

about my, a lot about mindset.

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And so I have lots of podcasts on

that and I'm working on a course

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about that, but that also is such a

huge, um, piece of this because, you

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know, you think about a year ago.

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So I got diagnosed with stage one breast

cancer and I took A long time to learn

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that because I had surgery in April and

you know, they learned more from that.

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And so I kept hearing good

things, but it was scary.

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So I took responsibility for how I felt.

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I did go in on anxiety medication

because I was so scared and

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I needed to pull out of it.

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And then I worked on my

mindset and I did what I could.

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I took care of myself, I rested, I

walked, and I learned things that

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I'm going to be putting in my book

to help us through hard times, to

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help us thrive through hard times.

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So that, I mean, what a blessing, right?

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Okay, here's the third one, which

I love, which has been new to me.

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I'm always stretching

and making it public.

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So, like, I'm writing my book.

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Now, I did say that years ago.

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I was going to write a book about,

um, adoption, and that still

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might be something that I do.

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Always stretch.

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Because I have kept myself from

stretching because I, you know,

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me, I'm a people pleaser and I,

what are people going to think?

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Or, you know, what if I say I'm

writing the book and it turns out only

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being a book that's here to help me?

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Well, then it's a book

that's here to help me.

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And so I'm going to continue to stretch

and I'm going to, and I'll tell you

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in another episode, um, some things

that I'm doing that I'm stretching.

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to get this book done and to

really work on it and to really

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do it and to believe that I can.

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And there's exciting things about that.

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And yeah, I can go, um, I

don't know how to write.

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I don't know if I can do it.

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Well, I can share my stories.

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I've been through things and I just

want God to use me to help you.

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So I am going to keep stretching.

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And I can do that in so many ways.

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I can do that through horses cause

I get scared of horses sometimes.

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Well, I can keep working on that fear.

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I'm afraid to, you know, do a podcast.

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I'm afraid to go on podcasts while

I've been stretching and going on them.

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So I'm not afraid of podcasts anymore.

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I did get over that, but, um, so that's

the third one is to always stretch.

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The fourth is, um, to model

someone who is already doing it.

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And it just helps to watch someone and

I've learned, I have learned to pay good

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money for getting someone to help me

who's already done it and that is the real

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way to do it and that's kind of what I'm

trying to do with going through this hard

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thing and learning, I wanted to help you.

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So model somebody who's

successful in what you want to do.

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And sometimes I remember

feeling like, well, no one's

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doing exactly what I'm doing.

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And I had a little bit of

a struggle finding someone.

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to model because my mediation

business was, um, different.

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So what I would do is I would find people

who were doing different things, like

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this person was doing a podcast and this

person was doing this and model them.

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But what I had to remember was that I am

one person and my family is important too.

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And so I could get really wrapped up

in, Oh, I've got to do 5, 000 Instagram

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posts and I need to get followers.

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And if you look at my Instagram, I don't

have a ton of followers because I haven't

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been putting the effort into that.

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because I can't right now.

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I, you know, maybe at some point I'll

hire someone and do more, but you

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have to have realistic expectations

too, so that you're not harming anyone

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along the way that's important to you.

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And that kind of flows into

always act from integrity.

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Um, You know, sometimes we can

try to do things quicker or cheat

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on your taxes or whatever it is.

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Let's work hard not to do that.

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Let's, um, let our word be

what our word is and act with

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integrity and follow your values.

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Um, it's important.

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It's so important.

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brings you some peace.

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So that was the fifth one.

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Um, I did want to say in number four, when

I was talking about modeling someone's

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behavior, I'm going to jump back to that

one because I missed it in my notes.

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Um, I have seven character

traits of successful people

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that I got from Tony Robbins.

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So this is kind of part of that modeling.

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They have passion that drives them.

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So that's what you think about.

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What are your gifts?

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What do you like to do?

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And you have a passion that drives

you because that's your calling.

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So these people have passion.

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They have a belief in their

ability to achieve just like the

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toddler who's starting to walk.

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It's that simple.

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Have belief.

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And like I said before, either if

you believe you can, you can, if

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you believe you can't, you can't.

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And of course, we have

physical limitations.

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So, you know, be aware of that,

but you can you can do it.

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Okay.

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The 3rd thing is they have a strategy.

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So.

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It is important to, and that's where I

was telling you that I use these people

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that are successful and model after them,

and I use their strategies in my life.

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And that's where that mindset

comes in, that you can go back

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and listen to that podcast.

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They have a great energy level.

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They're connected with others.

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They value working with other

people and they develop, the last

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one is they develop communication.

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And I love communication and it's so

important how we communicate with our

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loved ones, including ourselves, right?

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I think that sometimes we can.

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Forget to talk loving to our husband,

forget to be encouraging to our children.

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And honeys, those are, they are like

the most important people, right?

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And so are you.

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And so when you think about how you're

talking to yourself, That is so key.

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Tell yourself, like, what you

would tell a good friend or

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someone that you care about.

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Tell yourself that you're beautiful.

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Tell yourself that, oh, well, you

know, look at what you learned.

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Don't focus on what you didn't learn.

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So.

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And that is it for today.

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This went longer than I usually, when

I'm by myself I usually go shorter,

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but I wanted to share that with you.

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And I am going to be doing some of

these solo because I'm traveling

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around trying to help out my kiddos

and um, helping with grandkids.

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But I'm so happy, so grateful,

and so thankful, uh, for where

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things have ended up this year.

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And I'm thankful for what I, thankful for

what I've been through, and I'm thankful

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for all of you, so you take good care.