Saddle Up for Purpose: Unleashing Your Unique Gifts

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Welcome to Saddle Up Live.

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I'm really thankful that you're here.

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I, um, was just out hiking and had

so much inspiration that I wanted to

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jump in here and share it with you.

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And I'm hoping to get it done before

people start walking in that door that's

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right over there, right next to me.

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But this is what I wanted to share.

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You all know.

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That my business has been

changing just a little bit, still

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doing the work of mediations.

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Um, you know, that was

my original business.

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And I think I came upon that by

really a prayerful connection with.

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What my true values were and, um,

trying to align my gifts better.

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And I felt like mediation was a

little bit better than practicing law.

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But now as I look through a different

lens, a new lens, I'm really wanting to,

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to be successful, not really towards this

world's terms, but I want to use my gifts.

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And serve the world and just be filled.

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I have so much passion.

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I know we all do.

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I get so passionate about things

and I want to use those gifts.

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So my business is changing.

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My website is changing.

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I'm adding some new online courses

and it really is to help you.

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If you want to take one last ditch effort

to save your marriage, I can help you.

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If you are, you know, a mama whose

kids are heading off to school

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or a grandma, and you're looking.

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You know, you want to feel better or,

you know, find some value in your life.

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I'm, I'm here for you.

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So those are all things that I'm doing.

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But it was funny because I'm

always like growing and learning.

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And, um, I was listening to a really

good Tony Robbins YouTube video, which

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I'm going to go into more detail in

another episode, but one of the things

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he talked about was aligning with God

and he had steps to get there because he

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said, if your purpose is in alignment.

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With God, nothing can stop you and success

will look different because the success

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for me is going to be different than you.

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We don't need to fall into

what the world thinks.

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So, um, and he said, I think the first

thing that he said was to the first person

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you talk to have it be God, like ask

him, where do you want me to go today?

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How can I add value?

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And so that's one thing

I'm going to start doing.

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But a lot of us.

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Kind of struggle with, well,

what is my purpose, right?

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Like, what am I, what's my purpose?

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And he talks about how your purpose

is kind of something that you choose.

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That's, that's, it was in

you, it's your calling.

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It was before you were born and it has to

do with your values and with your gifts.

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And, you know, with circumstances

that have led you to where you are.

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And so one of the key things, right,

is to figure out what your gifts are.

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So I was like, all right, I'm

really trying to listen to God.

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So I went out on this hike and I'm

like, God, show me what my gifts are.

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I was like.

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Going through the recesses of my

mind, and I was like, you know, kind

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of going back and forth like, well, I

guess I can do hard things, you know,

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I went through that stage one breast

cancer, chemo and all that stuff.

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And I've done marathons,

I've I'm through law school.

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I can do hard things.

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Okay.

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Is that a gift?

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I don't know.

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You know, so I was thinking about

that and I actually kind of, I

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think, started feeling like maybe

a little bit unworthy or bad.

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Like, well, I don't know.

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It's not like I've done

anything really big, right?

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So you're thinking in the

world, what, what is big?

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And then after walking for a while

and really trying to listen, I

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realized The thing that I was

most passionate about, passionate

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about in my life was being a mama.

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And I got to birth two babies.

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I had the blessing of adopting

a baby and being a mother.

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Now, I was not perfect.

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But I was passionate.

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Nothing could stop me from doing

whatever I felt in my heart was the

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right thing to do for my children.

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And it wasn't always right.

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You can just go ask them.

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They'll tell you all about it.

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But what I want you to know is What could

be more success than that, than mothering?

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That's my gift, being a mama.

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And so I was like, Oh, well, that's kind

of a cool gift if you look at it that way.

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And then you look at, like, you brought

three amazing children into this world.

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And let me tell you, they're amazing

because I'm their mom and I can tell you.

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But they are, they're

awesome, awesome people.

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And then they bring people into

your lives, their friends, their

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spouses, then the grandma comes in.

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That's mothering too.

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So now I get to like, Oh,

I love those grandbabies.

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I love, I get to hold them

and kiss them and love them.

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And I've got kiddos

that want to be near me.

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So I get to be near their

kids and I, I get that.

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What?

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That's success.

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I get to have them all around me and I

think a big part of that mothering is the

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love and the nurturing and the teaching

and the growing and I can't help but

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believe that that's in my heart too.

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So.

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I thought, you know what?

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I mean, maybe it's kind of the

gift of mothering, but include

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teaching and learning and growing.

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And so that's where this is all going.

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And it doesn't mean that

because my kids are adults.

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And I'm all done mothering because you can

mother, you can mother, even if you don't

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have children, you can mother your nieces

and nephew, you can mother friends, you

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can nurture and love and teach and grow.

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And the really cool thing about

the work that I get to do now

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is like I get to research.

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So I'm actually writing a book.

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Finally, I've been talking

about it for so long.

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And that is one thing that

God really put on my heart.

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And I just, I'm just going for it.

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I'm taking action.

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And you know what, if it's only

for me to heal, or if it's for

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something that's made for more,

still be it, but I'm going to do it.

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And I'm starting on an eight week

course to get me through it with

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somebody who's going to help me.

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Um.

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In a couple of months.

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So stay tuned.

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That's all coming down the line.

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And that will probably be my first thing

and that I can mother I can mother by

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sharing what I've learned by caring

by loving and being passionate about

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it because I really do want us gals to

suffer less to connect more and to just

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live happier, more fulfilled lives.

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And if we're feeling like our

gifts are of no value, that's yeah.

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That's just not true.

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That's just, I mean, fiddlesticks.

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That's not true.

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Mothering is probably the most

important thing we do because every

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little human does something and

it doesn't have to be that you're,

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you know, making a million dollars.

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It can be that you get to live a

healthy, loving life with family nearby.

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So, I guess I just wanted to get in here

and share that with you and I invite

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you to look at what your gifts are.

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I'm going to keep exploring it and

don't put them down because maybe

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it's not what the world thinks.

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And also like there are some that I

felt like, well, that's kind of braggy.

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You know, like, I don't want

to say that I'm good at that.

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You know what?

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It's okay.

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You can say, you want to know why?

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Because we're all unique and we're

all made by God and we all have our

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special things and it doesn't make

anyone better than anyone else.

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But you get to see what

God gave you because.

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What would it be a sin if you

didn't if you didn't realize the

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gifts that you think are too much?

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So isn't that funny like you can think

well, that's too much I'm thinking

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too highly of myself with that gift

and that gift doesn't mean anything.

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That's not true It's not true.

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God created us all and we're to

let our light shine and I don't

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have the gifts that you have.

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And so share them with me or, you know,

whatever, if it's not about sharing

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it or teaching it, it's some, in some

way, you're adding value to this world.

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And we're all there.

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And I also started to realize that

when I was so concerned with what

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the world and what people thought,

it was actually very selfish.

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And that's not how I want to live.

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I want to serve the world and my family.

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And so bye.

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Focusing more on being aligned with

God in my purpose, I can look at

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bigger things and really move forward.

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So I'm going to be talking about this

more in future podcasts, but I just

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heard that car pull up in the driveway.

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So we're going to have some

people coming in this store.

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And so I'm going to cut this off.

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So this is a really quick Saddle Up

Live, but I hope it's meaningful for you.

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And I.

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I just hope that you can start

thinking about what your gifts are.

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And as we go along, I'll keep adding

things to it and sharing with you.

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And I'll have failures along the way.

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We all do, but they're not,

they're not bad things.

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They're stepping stones and I'm

not going to see them as obstacles.

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I'm going to see them as growth and I'm

going to share them with all of you.

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So thanks for being here.

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Take good care.