Heartfelt Voices: A Journey of Self-Expression

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Welcome to this week's Giddy Up segment, the segment from Saddle Up Live.

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And on Tuesday on Saddle Up Live, I had

a darling gal on named Olivia Aitken,

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and she's a successful young woman.

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She tells her story.

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of success and she throws in some

fun personal information about moving

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to Juneau, Alaska from New Jersey.

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And so it's really, it's fun and

it's heartfelt and it's about

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inspiration and using your voice.

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And so today in the Giddy Up

segment, I wanted to talk to you a

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little bit about using our voices.

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And you know, if the men are listening,

I'm happy that you're here too.

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I don't know why, but all I know is that

I'm a woman and I know that I have maybe

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struggled with using my voice and I was

doing a little bit of research on this.

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And I think having a podcast

is really fun because you get

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to, of course, use your voice.

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But I started thinking about.

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I've changed so much.

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I've grown so much at this

mature point in my life.

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And I started thinking, how am I using

my voice and speaking my truth more?

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And I thought, you know what?

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The number one thing that

I would share is that.

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I really work to listen

a little bit better.

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So when you are with someone and

you really listen to them, then you

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can repeat back what they're saying

to show that you're hearing them.

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And, and you want to know what it

helps you really hear them because

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sometimes I can jump ahead and just

want to say what I want to say.

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But if I repeat back the

other person's point of view

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or idea, it builds on itself.

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So then I have an easier time

speaking my truth with a little

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bit of kindness and respect.

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And another point to this is

to be present, to be there now.

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That's part of the listening.

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If you're using your ears and

listening to what the person is

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really saying and saying it back

to them, you're really hearing.

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And so then you're being present,

which allows you to speak your truth.

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Now, I happened to, to look up one

man who was talking about speaking his

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truth and he used an example of being

in a grocery store and this woman was

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just tearing apart her kids, just like.

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Being awful yelling at them and he, it

was just eating him alive and he went

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up to her and, and very kindly just, you

know, said, you know, I really don't think

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you should talk to your kids that way.

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I mean, I don't even know exactly what he

said and he walked away and he said that

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was really a bold thing for him to do.

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I don't know.

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That would be really hard

for me to do, but I get it.

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He, he wanted to let this woman know.

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Um, I don't know.

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There's probably two

points of view on that.

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Like sometimes you maybe wait

until someone asks for your

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advice before you give it.

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But if it was really something

horrific and he felt that he

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needed to say what he wanted to

say, he said that he felt better.

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And he said he didn't know if it had an

impact, but at least he had gotten it out.

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Now I thought of this.

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Um, maybe a simpler level being a woman.

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And this is cute.

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I was talking to my good friend

at my workout class today, and

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we were talking about her husband

has been gone for almost a week.

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And of course we miss our hubbies

when, when they're gone, but

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she was saying, Oh, it's just.

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You know, so peaceful, uh, you know, I

don't want to make it feel bad, but it's

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so nice and it's quiet in the house.

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And she said, I can go

to bed without the TV on.

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And she's a little bit younger than me.

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And I looked at her and I said,

darling, did you know, you don't

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have to go to sleep with the TV on.

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You could tell your husband, you don't

want the TV on when you go to sleep.

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And the reason I shared that with her

is because it's kind of the story of my

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life and it's not my husband's fault that

I don't ask for things and it probably

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was a little uncomfortable when I

started saying more things that I wanted

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and having a voice, but sweethearts.

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We deserve that.

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We deserve to be loved and respected.

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And our men and friends want to know

what we need and what makes us happy.

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And we want to listen to them.

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So maybe do it every other night, whatever

it is, but you don't have to quietly

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subdue yourself and not say what you want.

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So that's what I wanted

to share with y'all today.

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And.

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Go back and listen to Olivia.

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She talks about podcasts and success,

and she worked for the New York giants.

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It's so fun, but I just wanted

to share a little bit more.

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She's helping people use their voice.

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And I just thought I want to give you a

little bit of my own insight into that.

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So thank you so much for being here.

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I'll see you next week.